Five Reasons Menopause is the Prime of a Woman's Life

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All too often, conversations around Menopause focus on oestrogen and progesterone, the hormones of fertility.

"What you measure is what you get" Dr. Gro Harelem Brundtland (2003) (the only (!?) female Director-General of The World Health Organisation)

The reality is; you are more ththe focus on oestrogen and progesterone is based around a paradigm in which your worth is grounded in your fertility, including youth, beauty, mothering.

Around mid-life, as men's relative-testosterone drops, a woman's relative-testosterone peaks.

This affects your Libido, your boundaries, and rather than being numbed into mothering by your oestrogen, you can rise above your ovaries....for your own sake!

• Testosterone gives us more getup and assertion to speak truth and act on it. So, now is that time.

  
  

• Testosterone can be harnessed to get fit to get sexy to feel frigging incredible in your own skin

  
  

• Testosterone helps us set boundaries, and if you’re lucky enough to have claimed your sexuality you will be able to contain your vitality and direct your pleasure for you. You alone is the key.

If you are lucky enough to have been raised securely, you will also have capacity for oxytocin. This is the pre-requisite which enables you to meet your needs for belonging, restoration and being seen.

If you’ve done your somatic work to match your bodily sensation with your values (thank you Guruji) ....this will be far easier than you think. 

It is far easier to speak your truth than it is to hold it in.

Much of the symptoms of inflammation and irritation throughout your body are because you have not spoken your truth.

Now is that chance 

do not let it pass you by.

Live life on your terms. It is your Birth rite

A woman’s power is in her autonomy to consent or otherwise

Menopause is about using your anger and regret to make better choices. Menopause is about structuring your life around you...and only you.

So, here it is, amidst all the whinging of what a drag menopause it, I say, stuff it! You and only you can choose to engage in more self-flagellating pity, or choose to stand, speak your truth, claim your sexuality, write your heroine's story and own the power that was yours all along.

The top 5 Reasons Menopause is the Prime of Your Life (posed as questions so you can leave comments in response)

1. What if the anger of menopause were simply acknowledgement of all the times you gave your power away and an opportunity to reclaim that power?

Executive Summary: Action is the anti-dote to Anger. DO something about it. Now!

2. What if the fatigue for the acknowledgement that you’ve not seen your life’s work for what It truly is? 

I have run my own business since I was 21. I've done more admin, marketing, cusomer service, frontline, accounting, technology than anyone I know, all the while adding to my ever-impressive CV AND innovating my profession. How much more did I need to do, to SEE MYSELF?! Catch my drift.

Women, I'll say this once and only once.

STOP SEEKING APPROVAL!

Just STOP.....IT!

Exec Summary: See yourself (literally). Reflect on your career. Bind your life's work in gold-leaf, red leather. Whatever it has been. Only you can do this FOR YOURSELF.

It is your job to see the power of what you do. Now is the time to assess your life's work. To let all the visions awakened in you over the years, be made manifest in a way that returns directly to you.  Only YOU can acknowledge YOU!

3. What if the lower energy of menopause simply encouraging us to prepare for ageing?

A reality check that this stage of life is not about doing more...but finally...being more.

More strategic. More self-assured. More direct. More conserved.

When I think of the women I’ve admired my lifetime they have been women who were slightly worn by life, chilled out having expressed excess Lifeforce through years of service, mothering, partnering and loving. 

What a gift these decades have been but it’s time to move on. Two choices now: Move or stagnate. If you've stayed in touch with your body at least most of the way, you'll be in far better stead to accept this fate. Grandmothers energy is patient … let it settle you.

Exec Summary:  Be More. Be. More. Try it!

4. What if your wrinkles were a sign that you are more than your youth and fertility? You are your wisdom your experience. You’re your intelligence and your capacity.

Exec Summary: Youth is not everything so stop idolising it.  Love your mind. Love how smart, competent, capable, high-achieving, truly sexy and well-rounded you are!

You can finally put that energy wasted on appearance and pleasing others to something of far better use...like your career, your purpose, your tribe and your personal achievements.

5. And what if all this knowledge combined helped you realise that you now can harness your own creativity rather than give it away?

That's right. Menopause is the first time in your adult life FERTILITY is NOT ON THE CARDS. Yes, this is worth grieving (that's why we SomaFlow and ritual) AND it's worth celebrating! The creative centre of your being is no longer a place for a man to sew his seed, no longer a place for your community / family to drain it's resourcing, no longer a place to pour out in approval-seeking. It is YOURS and YOURS ALONE.

It's time to turn your creative resources to your own flourishing.

I can whole-heartedly say I am the fittest I've ever been. I have more creative energy AND the capacity to channel it. I have more get-up for my work than ever in my life. I have more clarity in my direction. I have way more self-security. I trust myself, my body, my wisdom, my know-how and my strategic thinking. I can actually relish my education. I'm more grounded, more connected, and more held by my tribe and community. I move in a diversity of ways that remind me of my freedom. I'm more spontaneous, intuitive and better at problem solving. I love challenge more than ever and I own my own freedom. 

Now, use it wisely, oh powerful one.

More than you know...

Your words leave a deep imprint,

Your gesture carries gravitas,

Your breath is presence,

Your fingertips are electricity,

so use them wisely.

They are more powerful than you could possibly believe.

If you're reading this, you'll want to know about our upcoming Integrative Medicine Menopause Clinic, and if you haven't yet, you should definitely invite a girlfriend to compare notes on our SomaSignature Quiz. See LexyBurns.Co for both these juicy assets. 

Lexy Burns is a Trauma-Informed Somatic Public Health Physician practicing and training on the East Coast of Australia. She consults and trains in personal- and organisational- policy to leverage Systems through cross-sectoral translation of sustainable- social - infrastructures.

"Yes, my darling, Menopause is the end of fertility… but it's also the beginning of unapologetic freedom" LexyBurns.Co